Frequently Asked QuestionsHow many sessions will I/we need?
This very much depends on what has brought you to counselling. Couples may need between 6 and 12 sessions to see changes in their relationship. Some may need more sessions, some less. The option of ongoing therapy for couples and individuals who wish to explore certain issues in greater depth is available.
How much will it cost?
An initial 50 minute consultation is £55.
I work on a sliding scale depending on a person's income. Ongoing 50 minute sessions range from £55 to £95 per session. I offer some low cost appointments.
How often would we meet?
Initially we would meet once a week on a regular day and at the same time.
Do I have to talk about everything?
We only need to talk about what you feel comfortable discussing. The focus of our sessions will be more on how you feel about or how you have processed what has happened to you rather than detailed descriptions of your experiences
Will we be talking about the past all the time?
It is important to understand, particularly in relationship work why we are feeling and behaving a certain way. The answers to this often lie in the past.
Having said this the focus of couple therapy or individual work will always be rooted in the present. We will look at the past but only to the extent that it can help make sense of what is happening now.
I've had therapy before and we talked about the 'whys' an awful lot, there wasn't much said about how to make changes.
Awareness is the first step towards making changes in our life as well as in our relationships. Your past experiences of therapy or work you have done on your own will have given you insight. Part of our work together will be using this insight in order to highlight what changes you wish to make and how you might begin to make them.
My partner doesn't want to come for counselling. Can I come on my own?
Yes, of course you can come on your own.
Your partner however might like to consider the initial 50 minute consultation as a one off session where any questions about counselling would be answered. It is also a good way of seeing what to expect, how I work and what we might work on together.
I believe my relationship is over. Is there any point in coming for counselling?
Relationship work is sometimes about helping couples separate as well as keeping them together. I have worked with many separating couples, who because of a shared past history or concern about the impact of divorce on their children wish to part as amicably as possible. Many separating couples also wish to try and make sense of what has happened.